I feel rather at peace and at home in my body these days, but getting here has been difficult. With the whole "new year, new me" situation being right around the corner, I feel like it might be helpful to share some insight on body love and answer a few questions.
Throughout my eating disorder recovery, my weight has been all over the place. I remind myself that these changes are NORMAL and I must trust my body. There is SO much judgment around weight and I just hate it so much. Fatphobia is a term I recently learned and DAMN HONEY, DAMN.
I personally think that there is nothing wrong with plastic surgery. But of course, you have to know that surgery is not a replacement for self-love. I talk about this more in my breast augmentation post.
There are so many things that we take for granted every day. Sometimes it’s like “ugh I hate my thighs they’re so big and jiggly,” then I shift the focus and think “but my thighs also allow me to run and jump. Oh, and the thickness is sexy!” Positive self-talk is a key to body love!
LOL. All they do is make you aggressively shit your pants. If any accounts that sell/promote those products appear on my discover page, I block them right away.
Someone else’s beauty is not the absence of your own. It’s okay to admire the uniqueness of others BUT remember to appreciate all of the beautiful parts that make you, you. Oh, don’t be a SHARON (more on that below) and take your pain out on other people.
I try to limit my time around people who make negative comments on my weight or shape. For example… LOOK SHARON, I’M SORRY MY THICKNESS IS AFFECTING YOUR LIFE AND WELLBEING SO MUCH THAT YOU FEEL THE NEED TO COMMENT ON IT. LOL, SEE YOU NEVER, SHARON! I know that Sharon’s negative comments are a reflection of how she feels about herself. There is no need to let that change how I feel or affect my body love journey. Rather than getting salty, I just try to have compassion for Sharon’s struggle and know that she must be really unhappy in her own body. MAJOR KEY HERE: Don’t be a Sharon.
All of these things are completely normal and no big deal. Stretch marks are a sign of growth, and wouldn’t it be kind of weird if we didn’t grow? IDGAF if you can see my cellulite through my leggings because pretty much everyone else has it too. Scars are just signs that you’ve lived in the world and not a padded room, the world is MUCH more interesting, right? No two marks are the same, so they’re also something that makes you unique.
I wish my 16-year-old self would’ve known what I know now. Please resist the urge to Facetune the eff out of your photos and stop using the “shape” tool. If we continue to do these things to ourselves, we can’t ever expect the media or big brands to change what they do. ALSO… Fuck Victoria’s Secret, this former VS retoucher spills the tea and honestly, it’s just so sad. I’m an Aerie gal these days, their bras (my fave is currently 50% off) are AMAZEBALLS and I love that they do absolutely no retouching. Plus, their dressing rooms are BOMB AF and I show you why in my LA vlog.